Who are you really talking to?

Who are you really talking to?

Many people use Facebook, Twitter or other social media sites to keep in touch with friends and family online. Talking to people online that you know is something that we all do, however people that you don’t know can also use social media to become your “friend”. You may feel the pressure of having lots of “friends” online, however it’s easy for someone to pretend to be someone else on the internet and you could end up having conversations on social media, with people who aren’t who they say they are.

Being online makes it easy for people to lie and pretend to be someone else. Some people use social media to make contact with children and young people with the intention of “grooming” them. They might attempt to gain your trust by using a fake profile picture and by pretending to be the same age as you or have similar interests.

People who try to groom children and young people want you to believe their lies so that they can get information about you:-

• Your age
• Where you live
• Who else might use the computer that you use or
• Who else has access to your mobile phone

Once they have lots of information about you and have got your trust and friendship, they often move conversations towards sexual experiences and interests, even asking you to send sexual photographs or videos of yourself.

Some might move towards wanting to meet up, others might try to blackmail you by threatening to share any images /pictures or videos you might have sent them already with your friends and family, if you don’t carry on doing what they ask you to do.

Online grooming can take place via chat rooms, instant messaging (IM), social networking sites and email and can involve you being asked to:-

• Chat about sex online
• Do sexual things on webcam
• Share naked or sexual pictures of yourself
• Look at, or watch pictures or videos of others doing sexual things
• Look at online pornography
• Watch the person you are speaking with do sexual things, such as exposing themselves
• Meet up face to face with the person you have been speaking to online

How to stay safe online

How to spot the signs

Who can help?

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For more information on CSE visit http://www.westyorkshire.police.uk/cse

Wakefield Council Youth Work Team is a subsidiary of WMDC Children and Young People's Directorate (c) Wakefield Council 2013